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For the last few years, I have been working with myself and connecting with other spiritual females, as well as getting a spiritual coach. In the process of connecting with myself and the universe as well as healing, I have worked with a process called Inner Bonding, which is a powerful six-step psychological and spiritual healing process. I discovered that there is no real healing without a personal connection with a source of spiritual guidance.

Everyone in recovery, whether from alcohol, drugs, food, spending, gambling, sex, TV, codependency, or any other addiction, knows that they cannot heal without a connection with their Higher Power, yet for many, this connection is elusive. It is a common experience for people who have been in Twelve Steps for years yet still don’t have a direct, personal experience of their Higher Power.

All of us want a direct line to our Spiritual Guidance. We need this help in maintaining abstinence and taking responsibility for ourselves. We want to know what is in our highest good, what is the right decision in different situations, how to set appropriate boundaries, and how to manifest what we want.

It is the birthright of each of us to have a direct line to a Higher Power, whatever that is for you. Yet, few of us have learned how to do this at will on a daily basis. Surprisingly however, it is not hard to do. The spiritual realm exists at a higher frequency than we do here on the physical plane of planet Earth. In order to access the spiritual realm, we need to know how to raise our “frequency”.

One way to understand “frequency” is to imagine a room filled with people who are sharing love and joy with each other. This room has a feeling of lightness, a high frequency, whereas a room filled with angry, tense people has a feeling of heaviness, a low frequency.

So, How Do We Raise Our Frequency?

There are numerous things you can do to help yourself raise your frequency, but none of them will work unless you have the intent to learn with the universe about loving yourself and others.

Our intention is the most powerful tool we have for raising our frequency. There are only two possible intentions in any given moment: to learn with the univrse about loving yourself and others or to protect against your pain and avoid responsibility for your feelings.

When our intent is to protect and avoid, we seek to control, through our various addictions, our feelings, others’ feelings and behavior, and the outcome of things. When our intent is to learn, we seek to take responsibility for our own feelings and behavior by discovering what we may be thinking or doing that is unloving to ourselves and others, and what would be loving.

You can try many methods of raising your frequency, from prayer to meditation to chanting, but if your intention is to protect instead of learning, none of these will do any good at all. The reason is that when the intention is to protect against pain, we close our hearts so as not to feel whatever we are feeling. Spirit cannot come through a closed heart.

We are each given free will when we come to this planet. This means that we get to choose our intention, to be open or closed, loving or unloving, protected against pain, or take responsibility for our feelings. While the love that is the universe is all-powerful, it cannot come into a closed heart. Just as the air you breathe cannot come into your lungs until you take a breath, the love, power, and wisdom that is the universe cannot enter your being until you choose the intent to learn about love.

When you have a true, pure intent to learn, your frequency automatically rises. None of the actions I suggest below will raise your frequency without this intention. However, once you have this intention the following actions can help to further raise your frequency.

10 Ways To Raise Your Frequency And Find Spiritual Guidance

1. Move into your imagination. Your imagination is a gift from the universe. When you move into

your imagination, you raise your frequency and tap into the source of your creativity and

inspiration. Our willingness to move into and trust our imagination is essential to being

able to connect with our personal Spiritual Guidance.

When you first begin to utilize your imagination to increase your frequency and connect with the universe, you might feel as if you are just using your imagination to make things up. However, as you take the risk of trusting what you think you are “making up,” you will discover that it really is coming

through you from the universe rather than from you.

2. Keep your body clear. Your body is an energy system. If your body’s energy is clogged with

drugs, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, sugar, heavy foods, lots of food, or foods contaminated

with pesticides, preservatives, artificial sweeteners, or any of the thousands of chemicals

that are added to foods, your frequency is lowered.

3. Pray. Sincere prayers of gratitude and asking the universe for help in healing all blocks to loving

can raise your frequency.

4. Chant. Repetitive prayers, chants, and mantras can open you to higher frequencies, as can

singing in general.

5. Dance. Rapid repetitive movement, such as Native American drumming dances, may

open you to higher frequencies.

6. Spend time in nature. The frequency of a city is far lower than the frequency of nature.

Being among trees and owers, near a river, creek, or lake, at the ocean, in the desert, or on

a mountain can all raise your frequency.

7. Listen to classical or spiritual music.

8. Do creative, artistic activities. Moving into your creative imagination raises the frequency.

9. Use incense or do “smudging.” Incense has been used for centuries to raise the frequency

and invite spiritual connection. “Smudging” is using the smoke from various dried plants

such as sage, pine, cedar, and lavender to clear the energies in a room and raise the

frequency. Smudging has been used for thousands of years by indigenous peoples

throughout the world.

10. Lighting candles. Candlelight, too, has been used for thousands of years to clear the air

and raise the frequency.

If you get into the habit of asking yourself throughout the day, “What is my intention? Am I trying to control something, or is my deepest desire at the moment to learn about loving myself and others?”, you will begin to understand the intention. This will eventually lead you to hear, feel, and see your personal spiritual Guidance.


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